Showing posts with label joy. Show all posts
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Monday, April 22, 2019

A Rite of Spring


"The question is not whether we believe in resurrection 
but whether we have known it -- 
known it in our own lived experience, 
seen it in the lives of others, 
felt it in the world around us."


For the last two decades or so, on the Sunday the majority of Christians celebrate Easter, every congregation I have served has held a service titled, "A Rite of Spring:  An Eastertide Celebration in Two Acts."  It is a visually rich service of readings and hymns, much like many Christmas Eve services, an it is one of the things from my time as a parish minister of which I am most proud.  I think it is an authentic expression of Unitarian Universalism -- both our message and our method.
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Back in 2016 I posted the text of "A Rite of Spring."  It is a very different thing to read the text without being able to see the roughly 100 images that are projected throughout or to experience the beauty of the hymns.  Still, even by themselves I think the words are worth considering.  If you're interested, here is the link:



Pax tecum,

RevWik


Wednesday, April 25, 2018

Reflections on Flowers and Weeds


This is the text of the reflection I offered at the congregation I serve in Charlottesville, Virginia on Sunday, April 22nd 2018.  It being Earth Day, this was the perfect Sunday to celebrate Flower Communion.  Especially in light of the discontent and disquiet current being felt in the congregation, it was the right time to remember the beauty of our community and how each of us contributes to it.

I want to tell you the story of the Flower Communion we’re celebrating today, and which many, many Unitarian Universalist congregations celebrate each year.  It’s one of the few uniquely Unitarian Universalist rituals our movement has.  For some, it’s right up there with the In-Gathering Water Ceremony.
Norbert Čapek was born in 1870.  His family was Catholic, and as a young boy he wanted to grow up to be a priest.  As he got older, Catholicism lost its luster for him, yet the urge toward ordained ministry continued.  At the age of 18 he joined the Baptists, and was ordained a Baptist minister.
So the Flower Communion was created by an ex-Catholic turned Baptist?  Hold on.  His search for truth and meaning isn’t done yet.
Čapek became an itinerant preacher, and evangelist who travelled widely, spreading the Good News.  Along the way he came into contact with the free Christian movement in Moravia.  The Moravian Church has its own fascinating history.  Jan Hus disagreed with some of the ways of the dominant Catholic Church.  Among other things:  he wanted the liturgy to be celebrated in Czech, rather than Latin, and wanted lay people to be able to receive both the bread and the wine during the Eucharist (at the time only priests were permitted to drink the wine).  As to priests, he thought they ought to be allowed to get married.  And he thought the practice of granting indulgences – which supposedly reduced the punishment for a person’s sins – and the concept of purgatory were wrong.  Naturally, he was charged with heresy – this was the 1400s after all.  Hus was declared guilty, and burned at the stake.
During his travels Čapek – remember Čapek?  This is a story about Norbert Čapek – became increasingly liberal in his views and anti-clerical.  He wrote and edited a number of religious journals, writing articles about everything from psychology to politics.  He, too, drew the negative attention of The Powers That Be, and he and his wife fled to the United States, along with their eight children.  This was 1914.
While he and his family were in the United States, the Baptists in his homeland brought up on charges in two heresy trials (Hus only got one!).  You might say that Čapek agreed with the charges, although didn’t see them as heresy, and he resigned as a Baptist clergy person.  That same year he discovered the teachings of Unitarianism, and he and his wife joined the First Unitarian Church of Essex County in Orange, New Jersey.  They were so moved by the teachings of what would become our own Unitarian Universalist faith, that they decided they had to go back to their homeland, and returned to Prague that same year.
Čapek formed the Liberal Religious Fellowship – an awfully good name, don’t you think? – and this fledgling Unitarian church grew, soon able to buy their own building, which they called “Unitaria.”  (Eventually they were able to purchase a medieval palace, which they renovated into their church building.  In 1926, the Czech government formally recognized the Unitarian Church of Czechoslovakia as a legitimate religion.
In those early years, not everyone who attended a service would have immediately recognized them as a religion.  The minister didn’t wear robes, there were no elaborate rituals, they didn’t sing hymns, and there were no formal prayers.  The services consisted largely of lectures.  And while all of that was appealing, some members of the congregation felt that there was a lack of a spiritual dimension, so Čapek begin to write hymns, and other liturgical elements.
Wanting to have a ritual that would embody the community as a community, yet not wanting to try to replicate the Eucharist, Čapek invited the members to bring with them one morning a flower.  It could be something from their own gardens, or something they found growing along the way.  When they entered the church, there was a large vase in the vestibule, with two children in charge.  People were asked to place their flower in the vase.  Having placed it there themselves was a reminder that it was their own free choice to enter into this community, and together that vase of flowers represented the beauty of their church.
During the service, the vase was brought up to the front of the church, and Čapek said a prayer and then consecrated the flowers.  The children then took the bouquet back to the vestibule, and people were asked to take a flower on their way out at the end of the service.  They were asked to take a flower other than the one they’d brought, as a way of symbolizing that the members of the community carried one another even when not at church together. 
When WWII broke out, the Čapeks were invited to return to the United States, but Norbert wanted to stay in Europe, continuing to serve the faith that had given him so much.  His wife did go back to the US to raise funds for relief efforts in Czechoslovakia.  She also served as minister in the North Unitarian Church in New Bedford, Massachusetts during this time.  Back in their homeland, Norbert and his daughter were arrested by the Gestapo.  They were charged with the capital offense of “listening to foreign broadcasts.”  They were eventually taken to Dachau, where he was tortured and, eventually, murdered.
His wife Maja had shared their Flower Ceremony with the church in New Bedford, and its practice spread – in part, because of its beauty, and also as a way of honoring this Unitarian martyr.
And we celebrate it this morning.  We have created a bouquet of flowers, each contributing its own beauty, just as we create a bouquet of people, each adding their own unique gifts and spirit to the whole.  Each Sunday I say that if any one of us were not here, it would be a different Sunday, just as if any one of those flowers was not there, it would be a different sight.
Ralph Waldo Emerson (whom some call “Saint Ralph” – okay, only I call him that) famously wrote (and it’s famous because it’s in the back of our hymnal):
These roses under my window make no reference to former roses or to better ones; they are for what they are; they exist with God today. There is no time for them. There is simply the rose; it is perfect in every moment of its existence.
But I’ll admit that I’m not so interested in roses – with apologies to those of you who may have brought one this morning.  Roses are so … quintessentially “flower.”  One of my favorite flowers is the dandelion.  Oh, I know that folks spend a lot of time trying to rid their lawns of them.  I can’t calculate the number of hours I spent on my knees, under the watchful eye of my mother, doing my best to remove each and every one, digging down with one of those garden tools with the “v” shaped top, trying to get them out by the roots so that they wouldn’t come back.  (She’s she’s not here to hear it, I’ll confess that I didn’t always make the full effort and would just pull off the obvious bit above ground.)
And maybe it’s because of what I’d call my “misspent youth” that I love dandelions so much, but I can tell you that a field of those compact little balls of sunshine is as beautiful to me as any of those enormous tulip fields Holland has to offer.
And maybe I love them because dandelions are often classified by people as a weed – as opposed to those stately roses.  On those few occasions when I watch televised sporting events, I rarely root for the team everyone else does.  I always root for the underdog, even if that means changing my allegiance during a game.  And with apologies to Ruth Douglas and others who know a lot more than I do about the perils of invasive species, I root for the weeds.  And after all, as a leader of a homestead camp I attended in my youth like to say, “Even a rose is a weed if it’s in a tomato patch.”
My mother once bought a product called Meadow in a Can.  In that can were the seeds of nearly 150 varieties of flower, and it was meant to be spread over an area of about 500 square feet.  My mother apparently didn’t read the fine print, because she poured out that can in one of her 5 x 8 beds, a total of only 40 feet.  That summer she really had a patch of wild flowers.  And my mother, being my mother, and I, being my mother’s son, loved that little area of beauty run wild more than any of her well-ordered, traditionally planted beds.  Up close it was … well … it was a mess.  But step back a bit, or look at it from above, and it was a chaos of color. A profusion of joy.  Beauty run wild. 
My friends, for all the tumult and turmoil roiling in our congregation at this time, I look out at you and see here – and among those not here this morning – just such a wild patch of beauty.  Roses and dandelions.  Spring ephemerals like bluebells, Dutchman’s breeches, and bloodroot (which blooms for only a few days), as well as long-blooming plants such as lavender, coneflower, and Russian sage.  We are that Meadow in a Can, we are those 150 varieties blooming together, we are a field of wildflowers.  And while it is human nature when times are hard to identify some as “flowers” and others as “weeds,” the soil and the sun make no such distinction. 
It is my hope, it is my prayer, that we can remember this truth about ourselves.  That we can take that view from above and see our abiding loveliness.  Let us look on one another in love.  Let us be mindful, always, of our beauty.

 Pax tecum,
RevWik

Monday, March 19, 2018

Living Dayenu


This is the text of the reflection I offered on Sunday, March 28, 2018 at the congregation I serve in Charlottesville, VA.


The poet, peace activist, and Buddhist monk, the Ven. Thich Nhat Hanh, makes quite a bit of “smiling” as a spiritual practice.  “Breathing in, I relax body and mind,” one of his breath prayers goes, “Breathing out, I smile.”  “Smile, breathe, and go slowly,” is his advice on how to live.
A woman came up to him during a retreat to ask him how she was supposed to do all of this smiling when she had some real grief and pain she was going through.  He told her, essentially, that she was being like a television set that thought it was NBC29 just because that was the station playing at the moment.  She thought that she was grief and pain because that’s what was “playing” in her life at that time.  But a TV isn’t just one thing, isn’t just whatever channel happens to be on, even if that channel is on most of the time, making up the background of our lives.  All the other channels are always broadcasting, too.  Yes, there was a lot of grief and pain in this woman’s life, but it wasn’t the only thing, and he told her that she could choose to tune into the Smile Channel, if you will.
Of course, that doesn’t mean that when you find this Smile Channel the Grief-and-Pain Channel has gone off the air.  This isn’t the all-too blithe assertion we should just think “happy thoughts” when things are bad, and all the bad things will go away.  Whenever I hear someone say that I think, “Oh yeah.  I'm just supposed to pretend to be happy.; I'm just supposed to act like everything’s great.  But when I'm done, all my very real problems are still going to really be here, so what’s the point?”  What Tich Nhat Hanh’s television metaphor reminds me is that all too often I pretend, I act like everything’s going wrong, focusing only on my problems and my pain.  I forget that my very real joy is also very much really here.
What makes Tich Nhat Han’s “smiling” a spiritual practice, a spiritual discipline, is that it’s both really simple, and nowhere near as easy as it seems.  It takes work to “change the channel.”  Not like today.  When I was a kid, if you wanted to change the channel you had to actually get up out of your chair, walk across the room, bend down, and turn that clicky little dial.  Now you don’t even have to exert yourself to pick up the remote, you can just say into the air, “Alexa, please change the channel and put on Grey’s Anatomy.”  Changing channels used to be a bit of work; changing “spiritual channels” still is.
But why do it?  And why do it even in times like these?  Cypress asked some really good questions in her Opening Words:  “Is it appropriate to sing “Dayenu!” [she said] when it seems that so much is going wrong in the world?
Our Chalice Lighting, from the American Jewish World Service’s “Global Justice Haggadah” explicitly reminds us that sometimes is simply is not enough.
And a couple of weeks ago, and a month or so before that, we said together a litany which its author, Viola Abbit, titled, “The Promise That Binds.”  Repeatedly we lamented that, “the promise of our faith, which was enough to bring us together, should have been enough to bind us together in love.”
Sometimes, apparently, and perhaps obviously, it is simply not enough to smile and say “Things as they are are enough.  Things as they are, the way the world is, the way my life is, is enough.”  Not at all.  Sometimes, as Dr. King said, we need to be “maladjusted” to the way things are.
And yet … (And there’s that “and yet” I love so much.)
And yet it can be so easy to get caught up in those things, to get lost in them, to forget that the world is not just ugly, and brutal, and mean (in both the sense of nasty and base).  Said another way, it's so easy to think that the world is FOX News, forgetting that Rachel Maddow and John Oliver are both broadcasting, too. 
The  problem here is that when we get so caught up in what is wrong with the world, when we forget that it’s also beautiful and good, we can easily drown in the pain, and become cynical, overwhelmed, and, eventually, numb to it all.  When we see only what is not “enough,” pay attention only to what isn’t okay, we too easy to crawl into a false comfort, pretending that everything is okay.
If we want to really be alive to the full experience of Life, then we need we need to be able to see both Life’s pain and its promise, its beauty as well as its brutality, its grotesqueries and its glory, both.
Which brings us back to smiling, and brings us back to dayenu.  The spiritual practice of living dayenu is not at all about pretending that everything’s okay even when it’s not.  It is about realizing, recognizing, remembering that even when everything’s not okay, something is.  Recognizing that “something,” realizing that there is always something to smile about, remembering that some things are “enough,” grounds us when the maelstroms of malevolence which makes up so much of life threatens to render us mute and impotent.  Living dayenu can give us strength when otherwise our strength might be sapped; can give us hope “when hope is hard to find;” can give us a reason, and a means, to “keep on singing.”
Many of us today have no doubt come here in some sort of pain, worried by some kind of problem that seems pervade every corner of our lives.  Our congregation is right now in the midst of the kind of turmoil it hasn’t seen in a long time, a disorienting dis-ease that some are calling a crisis.  And our country?  Well, I don’t think I need to say too much about that.
But there is so much that is good, and beautiful, and inspiring in the United States – just look at the youth who are taking to the streets and the hall of power.  And there is so much that is well worth celebrating in this congregation – just think about all the loving ways we have reached out and touched one another’s lives, been touched ourselvesand the community around us.  And no matter how it might look to you in this moment, you have had, there are now, and there always will be things in your life to bring a real smile to your face.
I want to end these reflections with a way of practicing dayenu, a tool, if you will, to assist in the changing of our channel when our channel needs to change.  I’m going to teach those of us who don’t already know it the song “Dayenu.”  Not all 15 verses, but even if the chorus is all you know … well … dayenu.  It will be enough.

Pax tecum,
RevWik






Monday, August 11, 2014

Farewell, Robin Williams

When I was young, I wanted to become a performer.  And I did, in more ways than not.  I've got a somewhat serious and steady gig these days -- every Sunday morning -- but in my day I was a juggler, a magician, an escape artist, a fire eater.  Truth is, though, each of those specialties was really an excuse to talk.  I have been for most of my life, and still am, a professional talker.

When I was a kid, one of my friends and I memorized every word of Woody Allen's Standup Comic album.  And, of course, I wore the grooves off my copy of Steve Martin's Let's Get Small.  And if you could watch videos of my earliest performances you'd be able to hear the rhythms and pacing of Bill Murray, something I consciously tried to copy.  But hands down, if I could have become a clone of anyone in those days, it'd have been Robin Williams.

I had never seen a comedic brain move more quickly.  (And never did, until I discovered Eddie Izzard.)  So fast.  So smart. A master, a true master. Thanks to my parents I was already familiar with Williams' hero Jonathan Winter, and I admired him tremendously.  But I loved Robin Williams.

This morning Robin Williams apparently committed suicide.  If someone as loved, as respected, as admired, as appreciated as this could give in to the suicidal urge, it is proof positive that that act has nothing to do with those things.  Looking in from the outside it can be so hard to see how someone who has "so much going for them" could find life unbearably painful or, perhaps worse, utterly meaningless. And yet, from this inside, those outside can seem to be speaking another language, or about someone else.

Williams' wife has said that she hopes people will not remember him for the way he died, but for the joy he gave others while he was alive.  I want to remember both.  Because the struggles he faced were real.  His suffering was real.  The depression, and the isolation, and the despair, and the meaningless, and the desperation, and the pain ... these were all real.

Yet so was the joy, and the wonder, and the child-like playfulness, and the intelligence, and the daring, and the compassion (and mischief) you could see in his eyes, and the appreciation of life that poured off of him ... these were real, too. 

And, I suppose, the most important thing to remember is that the were both true.  Those of us who know depression from the inside know it can be hard to see anything else about ourselves at times.  And yet many of us know that there are people who see us and can't believe we're depressed.  Both can be true in one and the same person, even at one in the same time.

So thank you, Robin Williams, for all the ways your life, your gifts, have impacted mine and the lives of millions of others.  You will be missed.  You will be remembered.

Pax tecum,

RevWik

R.I.P Robin McLaurin Williams (July 21, 1951 ~ August 11, 2014)

Friday, October 04, 2013

In Gratitude for St. Francis


Today is the feast day of St. Francis of Assisi -- Giovanni Francesco di Pietro di Bernardone.  He was born in either 1181 or 1182, and died in his mid-forties in 1226.  He is known in some circles as Alter Christus -- the other Christ.  I know him as the religious figure who speaks most directly and powerfully to my own soul.  A charismatic preacher who yearned for a life of prayerful solitude; a holy fool, whose primary message might well have been Rejoice! and yet who himself knew such deep melancholy.  I could go on.

Last evening I was surfing the web for images of Francesco and came across this one on the FaceBook page of the Order of Ecumenical Franciscans.  I do not know (yet) who created it, but it is without a doubt my current favorite.  Here's why:

A number of years ago I had a revelation.  It came to me that the best image for God (at least the best image for my understanding of God) would not be a King, nor even a parent.  It would be a puppy.  A dog is joy unbridled.  No matter who you are, or how you are, a dog can't give you enough kisses.  And over and over and over again a dog calls out to you, "Play with me!"

So here is that holy fool of God, Francesco Bernadone, embracing and being embraced by that most playful of pups.

Pax tecum,

RevWik

Tuesday, August 07, 2012

Happy International Philippe Petit Danced Between the Towers Day!

"Magic Triangle"
© 2012 Jean-Louis Blondeau
All rights reserved.  
Used with permission.
See Jean-Louis Blondeau Photography
When I finally saw him in person he was dressed all in black, from his top hat to his shoes, and was riding his unicycle like a mad-man, zig-zagging through pedestrian traffic in Washington Square Park in New York City.  He stopped by a lamp post and, with a piece of chalk, drew a circle on the sidewalk.  Then he started to work.

What amazed me was that he didn't call attention to himself.  Aside, that is, from careening through the crowds perched on a unicycle and carrying a bag of juggling props -- that kind of got people's attention.

I mean he didn't make a big deal about who he was.  What he'd done.

He simply began to juggle -- and even that wasn't especially flashy.  Three balls -- simple, white lacrosse balls -- and his pattern was small and tight.  Like he was.  An extremely slender man, he was not particularly physically impressive.  Except for his face.  He had the smile of a mischievous elf and the sparkle in his eye is rarely seen outside the world of faerie.

It was clear to me that a lot of the people in the crowd that gathered didn't know who he was -- just another street performer out on a summer afternoon.

But this was Philippe Petite -- the man who, shortly after 7:15 am on August 7, 1974, stepped off the top of one of the World Trade Center towers and onto the 3/4" cable he and his co-conspirators had spent the better part of the night rigging.  The wire stretched the 200' between the twin towers.  It was about a quarter of a mile above the street below.

And it was here, amidst the clouds and the soaring seagulls, that Philippe Petit danced for approximately forty-five minutes.  And changed the world.

At least for me.

I was twelve years old at the time of Monsieur Petit's "artistic crime of the century," as it's been called.  I was already a magician, a bit of a clown, and I wanted . . . to be him.  I wanted his skills, of course, but I also wanted his audacity.  I wanted his whimsy, his magic.  I wanted his insanely poetic vision.  I wanted his courageous commitment to his art.

When asked why he would do something that was at once both illegal and so incredibly foolhardy -- he did this cross with no net and no safety cables! -- Petit answered, "There is no why."  He said that to demand a "why" was such an American thing to do.  Finally, when he could no longer resist the pressure for an answer he said this, "When I see three balls, I juggle; when I see two towers, I walk."

He did this thing for no other reason than that it cried out to be done and that the doing of it would be so very, very beautiful.  I have read that Albert Einstein said that he realized the equations of his General Theory of Relativity were correct because they were . . . beautiful.  I fear that the dominant culture within which I live is almost entirely bereft of this understanding of beauty -- that it proves the "rightness" of things and that it is, in and of itself, all the reason one needs for doing something incredible.

Several years ago I began to intentionally celebrate what I came to call International Philippe Petit Danced Between the Towers Day.  I talk about Petit's walk with whoever I can get to listen.  (Most likely . . . again!)  I look at photographs of it.  (And here is an incredible collection, taken by his friend and collaborator Jean-Louis Blondeau.)  And I watch the awesome film Man on Wire.  I immerse myself in this legendary event. 

This year, as part of my celebration, I'm going to take out my own white lacrosse balls and do a little juggling.  Because ultimately the story of Philippe Petit's dance between the towers is not simply the story of an incredible individual doing an inconceivable thing.  That's the myth, and the myth has a certain magic to it.  Yet the truth is no doubt far more complex.  It'd be the story of a group of ordinary people who created together an extraordinary experience -- for themselves and for the world.  I hope that that story is eventually told.

One of the most incredible things of all, for me, about my encounter with Philippe Petit in Washington Square Park all those many years later is that I have heard him say that his dance between the towers was, for him, like the dance I saw him do between the lamp posts in Washington Square and that both, in fact, are just expressions of the dance he does every day of his life.

So . . . I still want to be Philippe Petit . . . living my life, like his, dancing on the tight rope.  And I also want to be like Jean-Louis Blondeau, Jean François Heckel, Annie Allix, Jim Moore, Jean-Pierre Dousseau, Barry Greenhouse, and all of the others who were equally invested and equally involved in purusing their own dreams.  Most of all, I suppose, I am inspired to be myself.

May you be as well.

Happy International Philippe Petit Danced Between the Towers Day!

In Gassho,

RevWik

PS -- This is the best International Philippe Petit Danced Between the Towers Day in the history of its celebration! In order to use the photograph of Petit as a juggler, I reached out to ask permission of Jean-Louis Blondeau, the photographer and Petit's collaborator on the World Trade Center walk. And he responded! One of his requests in response for his permission was that he have the opportunity to read this post before it was published, so that he could see in what context his work would be used. This means I have now had several e-mail exchanges with the man I personally consider to be as integrally involved in Petit's feat as the cable itself or, for that matter, Petit's feet! No one can accomplish something like what happened 38 years ago today entirely on her or his own. That is another lesson I take from that dance. Thank you, Monsieur Blondeau.

Wednesday, November 24, 2010

God is a Playful Puppy

I recently read a book about St. Francis of Assisi -- John Michael Talbot's The Lessons of St. Francis:  how to bring simplicity and spirituality into your daily life -- in which I came across this marvelous passage:
"What is it about some religious people -- whether in Francis' day or our own -- that makes them think God is a cosmic killjoy?  That sancity must lead straight to solemnity?  That hymns must be funeral dirges?  They certainly don't get such ideas from God, who rejoiced as he created the universe, or Jesus, whose first miracle was to turn water into wine at a wedding feast.  Many people obviously don't understand what the anonymous medieval author of The Cloud of Unknowing meant when he talked about 'the delight of the Lord's playfulness.'"
I've said before that I think one of the better images we could have of the divine is that of a playful puppy -- literally falling all over itself with exuberant energy and slobbering all over you and me with affection.  Nothing we can do will ever diminish the puppy's enthusiasm, its excitement and delight, its devotion . . . and so I think it is with God. 

If God's an old man in the clouds, then there's a twinkle in his eyes and he loves to pretend to pull a quarter out of your ear just so that he can see the way your face lights up.

The ancients didn't tell us that God feels love or is loving towards us, but that God is love.  Some have interpreted the mysterious revelation to Moses -- "I am that I am" -- as God saying "I am existence itself,"  Note that this doesn't mean, "I am all the things in existence," but rather, that God is existence or, as some have put it, is IS-ness itself.  God is love and, I would add, is exuberance, is delight, is joy.

For this, may we be truly grateful.

In Gassho,

RevWik